I do not want to get in the habit of making excuses for the lengthy delays between postings, so I will just say that this week I was pretty busy with work and a crazy wild night life. If you have been unable to function due to a lack of Bean Spiller thoughts and write ups, I apologize. Not likely, but at least I can pretend that people are bummed out that I haven’t blogged in awhile. So without further ado I will spill the beans. As mentioned in a previous blog, I committed a social blunder a few weekends ago…Well some would consider it quite the faux pas, I on the other hand thought it was perfectly normal.
It was a Sunday afternoon and I was in the mood to go to the movie theater. I did not really care what I saw, I just knew that I wanted to go. Lately, it seems that I have a tendency to get fixated on things and feel that I have to follow through even if it is something as silly as going to a movie. It was inevitable; I was going to a movie that afternoon. Unfortunately, my usual movie companions were out of commission with sicknesses and did not want to join me. I was also being lazy and did not try to find other people to go with me. Decision time…Go to the movie solo or somehow get the brain to stop telling me that I do not have to go to the theater today. There was no talking myself out of it, as there was nothing on TV, Kris was napping and then going out of town, Laura was napping, and I was bored. So I went to the movie by myself.
This is definitely not the first time that I have gone to a movie by myself, but I took a lot of crap for this particular decision. I guess I should mention that it was February 14th, which for those of you that don’t know, the 14th is Valentine’s Day. So a movie by yourself on Valentine’s Day isn’t that bad, is it? Well, I made matters worse by choosing to go to the movie Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day on Valentine’s Day by yourself, SWEET. As you can imagine the theater was packed, mostly with couples happily enjoying their dates. I tried to get there early so I could pick a seat in a corner or in a less noticeable area. I scanned the seats and saw 2 open seats right next to the aisle about midway up. There was a guy sitting in the 3rd seat with an open seat to the right of him. I thought perfect I can sit on the aisle and then there will be a gap between me and the happy couple. I took my seat and was anxiously awaiting the previews. No matter how many movies I have gone to alone, this is always the most dreadful time. I cross my fingers and hope that no one will recognize me. Phew, the lights went off. Somehow I failed to realize that this guy was not just with his date but 2 other guys and their dates. The girls were out getting concessions and filed in to the seats conveniently left open in between each guy. Great, I had inadvertently become part of a high school triple date. Nothing like being the 7th wheel with people you do not even know. Being the mature person I am, I avoided all eye contact and thought to myself, “hmmm, I wonder what they are thinking right now?” The movie came and went and for those of you that have not seen it yet, you are not missing much.
While there are occasional moments of embarrassment and the fear of being recognized, overall, I do not understand why some people consider going to a movie alone to be a form of social suicide. If you haven’t done it before, try it and you might be surprised. It is actually quite relaxing and enjoyable. I am quite confident that I will see many more movies by myself and if that makes me a loser, oh well!
Until next time,
The Bean Spiller
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i was actually anxiously awaiting your next blog posting
ReplyDeleteI think a woman going to the movies alone being viewed as something weird is an antiquated opinion dating back to women should never be alone in public. I don't think men going to the movies alone have any qualms about it as it was never an issue for men to be "unaccompanied" in public. I think it could be comparable to women eating alone in restaurants. Men wither wouldn't eat or would chose to eat at the bar which would be a real "no-no" for a single woman. anyway I have eaten in restaurants alone and viewed movies by myself too, as I know my mother and siblings have. so I guess there is a family tradition going on here. ps I did mention this to an older women who said she would"never go to a movie alone. It just isn't done" Oh well to each her own!
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